In this first session, you will be introduced to the life-transforming Deeper Dating approach. You will learn why your age, looks and life-circumstances matter far less than you have ever been told, and why the fastest path to love is not about fixing yourself, but about discovering and sharing your deepest gifts. You will be introduced to the four stages of the Deeper Dating process, and you will learn how to transform your search for a relationship into a journey of healing, self-discovery and love. You will also discover how to access your Gift Zone, the very source of love within you.

In this session, you’ll learn:

• Why longing for love is a sign of wisdom, not weakness.
• 4 foundational research findings which reveal a wiser path to love.
• Why self-improvement often leads us away from love, not toward it.
• Why looks, youth and success matter far less than the true skills of intimacy.
• 3 tools for making your search for love profoundly more effective – and much less painful.

In this session, you will learn to discover, name and embrace your own Core Gifts; the very heart of the wiser search for love. Core Gifts are your points of deepest sensitivity, the parts of you where life touches you most deeply. We often think we need to suppress hide or fix these points of great sensitivity, but the very reverse is true; they are the bullet train to authentic love and they hold the key to our greatest inner beauty and capacity for love.

In this session, you’ll:

• Identify two of your most essential Core Gifts, and see how these gifts have shaped your relationship history – and your entire life.
• Learn how your insecurities and vulnerabilities reveal your greatest gifts.
• Learn to recognize your Core Gifts in both your greatest joys and your deepest heartbreaks.
• Discover how honoring these Core Gifts can change your entire search for love – and the quality of your life.
• Learn about the Gift/Wound Matrix, a new and liberating way to understand your life story and your intimacy journey.

Most of us have spent much of our lives trying to get our deepest gifts to line up in a neat row and follow our orders. Until we learn to listen to the radical wisdom of our deepest gifts, we will continually sabotage our relationships and ourselves. In this module, you will learn how to honor, listen to and work with the great treasure of your own Core Gifts. As part of this session, you will begin to create your own Gift-Circle – a life-changing experience where the people who love you most help you see and understand your own Core Gifts. When you learn to honor and share your Core Gifts, you will have discovered the single greatest magnet for healthy love.

In this session, you’ll learn:

• 6 essential tools for honoring and expressing your gifts
• What your Core Gifts need from you.
• The lesson almost no one teaches you about self-love.
• How to let your Core Gifts lead you to romantic love.
• How to create your own Gift-Circle.

When we come to understand our Core Gifts, we often feel profound relief, a sense of breakthrough and often deep emotional shifts. These shifts often form the basis of a completely different future in our relationships. Based on current feedback from the entire class, Ken will highlight and discuss the deepest themes and challenges which are emerging for group members, and offer guidance and direction in integrating these profound and wonderful changes. In this class, you will learn two exquisite brief meditation processes which will help you receive inner guidance and direction in your own search for love.

In this session you’ll:

• Explore why your Core Gifts have been the source of pain and insecurity in past relationships and how to heal that pain in your present life.
• Learn to discover your own guiding insights; messages from your deepest self that have the power to transform your life and your search for love.
• Create a five-minute spiritual practice which taps the power of your yearning for love.
• Learn to understand and navigate the changes which are beginning to occur in your own dating life and intimacy journey as a result of embracing your Core Gifts.

Our romantic and sexual attractions – and what we do with them – shape our entire search for love, yet we are given almost no training in how to work with or understand these powerful forces. We cannot control our attractions, but we can educate them. And our attractions can also educate us – teaching us some of the deepest lessons of our intimacy-lives. You will learn an entirely new understanding of how to work with your romantic and sexual attractions.

In this session, you’ll learn:

• “Attractions of Inspiration” vs. “Attractions of Deprivation” – the most important lesson in your search for love.
• Why our strongest attractions are often to people who are not good for us.
• How to become attracted to people who are good for you.
• How your attractions – both positive and negative – can help you understand yourself in much deeper ways.
• The single decision that is almost guaranteed to transform your relationship future.

In this module, you will learn the most important tools of Deeper Dating, each of which is designed to transform your dating life into a path to personal empowerment and deeper love – an adventure of growth. You will learn how to bring the power, authenticity and magic of your Core Gifts right into the day-to-day reality of your search for love – and into all your relationships. You will develop a “toolkit” of skills which will help turn your dating life into a true adventure of intimacy.

In this session, you’ll discover:

• The 7 most important skills of Deeper Dating.
• Concrete Deeper Dating skills specifically designed for online dating, dating events, social gatherings and day-to-day life – with checklists, suggestions and exercises for each of these venues.
• How to create a personal plan for your intimacy journey, using your own deep intuition.
• To move closer to real love by engaging in “mindful field trips,” which will illumine old intimacy-sabotaging patterns and help you create new ones.

Each of us has unique sexual and romantic Core Gifts. When we learn to name and embrace these gifts and understand the insecurities that may surround them, our romantic journey becomes infinitely richer. In this module, you will discover your own sexual and romantic Core Gifts, and learn specific tools and techniques for deepening your sexual, romantic, emotional and spiritual connection to partners who are good for you! Exciting research findings and current intimacy theory offer us tremendous opportunities for bringing greater passion, erotic joy, tenderness and humanity to the way we love.

In this session, you’ll:

• Discover ways to embrace two of your essential sexual/romantic Core Gifts.
• Receive specific research-based techniques for developing and intensifying sexual and romantic connections with a partner.
• Expand your capacity to work with attractions that threaten to knock you off balance.
• Learn two powerful questions for bringing deeper humanity, love and sexual depth into your relationships.

We are taught to see fear of intimacy as a problem to be fixed, yet the truth is that fear of intimacy is simply a condition of being human. The issue is not whether we have fear of intimacy; it is what we do with that fear. Every single one of us has patterns wherein we push away love, often without even knowing it. At the heart of each of these patterns is a deep gift waiting to be seen, protected and finally liberated. In this class, you will learn to name and understand the biggest factors that have kept you from love, how to handle them with more compassion and how to navigate them in new ways. Using current feedback from the entire class, this class will be an “intimacy clinic” and will offer guidance on the greatest challenges and breakthroughs class members are experiencing.

In this session, you’ll:

• Learn about “The Wave” – the single greatest saboteur of healthy new love – and what to do when it hits.
• Discover and describe your own “flight patterns” – the ways you consciously and unconsciously protect yourself from the heat of love.
• Use the skills and tools you have learned to create a loving plan for healing and changing these patterns.
• Learn the greatest antidote to fear of intimacy.

In this course, you have made a passionate commitment to one of the great missions of your life: the search for your life-partner. As part of the course, you will have touched the very deepest parts of your being. In this class you will acknowledge and consolidate your deepest learnings, and look at your entire intimacy journey with new eyes. Finally, looking at your entire relationship history, you will articulate your single greatest intimacy challenge and find the great gift that lies at its core.

In this session, you’ll:

• Learn how to use the powerful and simple AHA technique to profoundly deepen intimacy in your romantic relationship, or any relationship at all.
• Articulate your own “next brave step” in your search for love.
• Identify sources of support for your deeper journey into intimacy now that the course is moving toward conclusion.
• Create a clear and inspiring vision of the wise, loving person you are becoming.

In this final module, you will reflect on all of your learning, growth and changes during this course. Through a set of powerful and evocative exercises, you will deepen your understanding of your most essential Core Gifts, and acknowledge all the love in your life; past, present and future. You will leave this session with a sense of all the intimacy gifts you already have and of the profound power of love within you.

In this session, you’ll:

• Find new ways to express your intimacy gifts and negotiate the wounds and challenges that surround them.
• Share with other class members the Core Gifts you have seen in them and be told about the Core Gifts other classmates have seen in you.
• Receive deep personal guidance from your own truest Self – and your loved ones – to help you take concrete next steps in your deeper path to love.